Master Your Zen: Tailoring Patience to Your Zodiac Sign
Wishing that things were different or
hoping that you could change the past is one of the worst feelings. Sometimes
after a breakup, the person feels like they could’ve done better or treated
their partner better. But thinking about what you could have done will not
change the fact that you have already broken up. When it comes to the past, the
best thing to do is try and let go so you can move on. If you keep holding onto
the past you may not be able to create a better future for yourself.
Here are some tips to help you recuperate
Try and understand the fact that the
relationships you thought you had aren’t always real
As time goes on you will learn that not
all things go as planned. It’s very normal for things to take a wrong turn, but
what you shouldn’t do is try and blame yourself for everything. You should
learn to accept some facts about other people, and do not paint an image of
their personality without truly knowing whether you are right or wrong.
Don’t try to invest in the outcome of a relationship; it will often lead to disappointments if done.
Whenever you expect something, you already
have a feeling of how things will go, and might end up fearing the outcomes you
thought of. There is actually nothing you can really do to get people to give
you the outcomes you desire. When your needs or expectations aren’t met, try
and act rationally because that wasn’t something that was actually going to
happen to you. Don’t make up scenarios in your head because this might lead to
overthinking and stress. Sometimes when expectations aren’t met, try letting
go instead of clinging on to make your expectations come true.
Do not chain or restrict yourself. Try to live freely because only you have the right to do so.
Sometimes we think of certain things and
say stuff like “I am never going to be able to do that.” Well you won’t be able
to because you haven’t even tried yet. Try to believe in yourself and open up
your mind to trying new things, even if it scares you. Although you might get
scared after doing that thing you might end up even liking it, if not, there
was no harm done trying. There will be many people in your life who will try
and bring you down by saying you can’t do it; at the end of the day it all
depends on whether you truly can do it or not.
Things to remember if you date after a breakup
Try to have a positive instead of a
Everyone knows that you may be depressed
and have negative thoughts after a breakup. But if you truly want to start
anew, try and refresh your mind with positive thoughts. Don’t expect things
from the person you are going to date, instead enjoy the relationship and go
with the flow.
Think of the things you do and don’t want in your next partner
If you have enough time after a breakup,
try and recall the things that did and didn’t work out for you. By doing so you
will be able to learn from the mistake and search for a person who won’t repeat
Take some time to rest and heal
It is very essential to check in on
yourself after a breakup, instead of directly entering a new relationship. Try
and see the signs that show you are not ready for a new relationship. If you
aren’t over your ex don’t start a new relationship, because you might end up
hurting the person you are with now by thinking about your ex.
Try taking things slow instead of rushing
If you constantly jump from one relationship
to another, try and take things slow after you’ve had a breakup with someone.
Don’t pressurize yourself to continuously go on dates or rush through
everything, because that will just spoil the new relationship you have.
Don’t compare them to your ex
This is one of the worst things to do after a breakup. When you compare your current partner to your ex you actually belittle them. It also shows that you aren’t satisfied with the relationship you are in, and makes the other person want to leave you. They might feel like a stepping stool for you, and may think that you are only using them to get over your ex.