Kundali Matching or Kundali Milan has garnered a maligned image in the eyes of the youth. While their parents want them to at least get their and their partner’s Kundalis matched, they often resist and do not want to do anything with Kundali Matching or the mumbo-jumbo of Astrology. Why such blind resistance? Through this piece, we will try to deconstruct the stereotypes that have become synonymous with Kundali Matching and see it the way it is.
Kundali Matching can be quoted as a process. It is a process that is done to check the compatibility status between the two individuals who wish to get married to each other or are about to get married. Kundali Matching is done with the help of Astrology.
Three ingredients required
The three main ingredients which are required for a Kundali to be made are the person’s date of birth, time of birth, and place of birth. With these three ingredients in place, a Kundali is made as accurately as possible. The prospective bride and groom’s Kundalis are thereby matched to see how they will function as a couple after marriage and in case of any mishaps, what can be done to prevent them.
Now, let us go into a little more detail about Kundali Matching. Kundali Matching can be also be called Kundali Milan. The word “Milan” signifies the union of two people coming into yoga after going through marriage. Marriage is something which is also considered sacred and holy but nowadays just about anyone is getting married to anybody without possessing any commitment of sorts. When troubles arise, they want to get out of the marriage as soon as possible. That is why such focus and precision are emphasized upon Kundali Matching. But at the same time, we must remember that Kundali Matching ensures a successful marriage and a marriage devoid of any abuse. It depends on various other factors as; a person’s mind can get changed at any moment and take charge of them.
The very first step of Kundali Matching is the Guna Milan method. You must have heard people and pundits talking about how much of a score you obtain in Kundali Matching out of 36. The Guna Milan method is sometimes also treated as synonymous with Kundali Matching. It is not so. Guna Milan is just one aspect of Kundali Matching. Guna Milan is based on the Ashtakoota method. Ashta essentially means number 8 and koota signifies qualities or categories. So, the Ashtakoota method gives Guna Milan 8 categories in total to figure out the mental, sexual and physical compatibility of the two individuals and how they will function together after marriage. Much emphasis is also laid upon the prospects of a marital life which involves bearing a child, childbirth, health, and much more.
Let us lay in detail what every 8 kootas mean in terms of their importance and why they matter –
Varna, Score – 1
The very first koota is the Varna. In Hindu Marriages, caste is something that is looked at first when it comes to marriage. It is usually stressed that people marry within their caste only but as the times are changing, the grip of Varna is loosening too. Caste was put in place for a certain system to come into being when it comes to building a society. But as the times progressed the Varna distinction became discrimination and the rest is history.
Vashya, Score – 2
Marriage involves two people and sometimes the other becomes domineering over the other. Vashya considers the tendencies and attitudes of both the people in question and who is likely to dominate the household situation.
Tara, Score – 3
This refers to the Nakshatra Matching for purposes of health, wellbeing, and emotional compatibility between the duo in question.
Yoni, Score – 4
Yoni means the womb of a woman. The Yoni koota indicates sexual compatibility between the duo and the shared intimacy in marriage.
Graha Maitri, Score – 5
This koota indicates mental & intellectual compatibility between the two individuals.
Gana, Score – 6
Gana means a troop or body of attendants. This Gana indicates the friendship level of the duo by figuring out their temperament, behavior, and character.
Bhakoot, Score – 7
Bhakoot koota indicates the financial prosperity of the duo after marriage and points towards the overall career growth of both the bride and groom.
Nadi, Score – 8
Nadi holds the highest score in Guna Milan. It indicates matters related to progeny and childbirth. People of the same Nadi are not considered suitable to marry.
Now, can you see with how much thought Kundali Matching is done? It is millennia old and our ancestors took care of every little thing. Overall, Kundali Matching is a boon and one should go for it non-judgmental to gain rare insights together to prepare better for the future.