HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION?
Rejection is an inevitable part of life, you can’t really escape it. It may occur in any form, rejection in relationships, friendships, or even career. Everyone has a different way of dealing with rejection, but one thing that you should never do is let rejection take over your life. Getting rejected once doesn’t mean that your life has come to a standstill. If handled properly, you can actually turn your rejection into a life lesson and learn from it.
Here are a few ways to help you deal with rejection:
Don’t listen to people about when you should be over your rejection, they haven’t faced it, you have so take your own time to process it. If you really want to get over your rejection, then forcing optimism or moving forward won’t help. It’s completely natural to feel upset, hurt, or even frustrated so instead of suppressing your feelings, address them and you will automatically start feeling better. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you will start to heal; you can’t stay in denial for too long, at some point you will have to face those feelings. However, this does not mean you push away your feelings, because if you do that, those feelings will come up sooner or later and not in a good way.
One rejection doesn’t mean that your life has come to an end when you are feeling dejected then focusing on the things that you have helps. Focus on the good things in your life, appreciate them and you will start to feel better. Spend some time with your family and friends and you will realize that you have so many things to be thankful for. If you keep thinking about your rejection, it is just going to get worse and won’t help you in any way.
Don’t listen to your inner critical
It is quite natural for your inner critic to come out during such times, while generally listening to your inner critic proves to be really helpful, but not during this time. It is likely that you will blame yourself for the rejection, but being so hard on yourself won’t change anything, instead, it will shake your confidence and make it all the more difficult to move on. You need to understand that not everything is under your control and you need to let go of such things before they start hampering your mental health. Your mental health is of much more important than any rejection which you have to face.
Confide in your friends
Talking to your family or friends is a great way to deal with your feelings, unloading whatever you are feeling and you will instantly feel light. They can also help you with a third-person perspective which might help you analyze the situation better. Sometimes all you need is to vent out all your emotions to feel better. You can even come up with plans for your future with some advice from your closed ones. You don’t have to move on right away, but thinking about it is always good. It is very rightly said, that a good rant can improve your mood by leaps and bounds.
It’s not all about you
It’s very easy for you to have negative thoughts during such times but don’t let that overpower your mind. You need to understand that not everything is about you, there can be various reasons behind a rejection so don’t blame yourself and keep your mind open to different possibilities. It can also lead to revisiting some past wounds, you might feel that ghosts of your past are back to haunt you, but you need to keep a strong mind and avoid any kind of negativity. You should always focus on the positive, learn from your mistakes.
Learn from it
Rejection is a part of life and it’s inevitable, you can’t run from it for long. If you are very lucky then maybe you won’t have to face any rejections in life, but most of us have faced it in our lives, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn something from it. Maybe looking at things with a positive outlook might make it better; think of all the things that you learned from it. Make a list of the areas you can improve on, your ability to understand people or maybe your communication skills. If you keep treating it as something negative, you won’t be able to get any benefit from it.
One thing which proves to be extremely helpful is to remind you that it is just a phase and everything will get back to normal soon. It’s not something permanent, one rejection doesn’t mean that you are not good enough, never doubt yourself, take it as a lesson and move on. If you start to think that this is permanent, you will never be able to let go. It will keep haunting you and might even ruin future opportunities for you. You need to understand that just because you got rejected once, you will have to face the same situation again.
Boost your self-esteem
It is quite obvious that your self-esteem will be shattered at this time, but you should try everything to build it. Low self-esteem is just going to make matters worse and spoil both your present and future. Many at times, low self-esteem is the reason behind rejection, so you should definitely build it. Filling your mind with positive and happy thoughts, focusing on your positives, and appreciating your skills are a few things that you should try.
One rejection cannot bring your entire life to a standstill; you need to battle through this. If you keep thinking about it, it won’t things better, but moving forward will. It’s good to take time to process things, but that doesn’t mean you will sulk for months, sooner or later you will have to move forward. Start by taking small steps but don’t ever stop.